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Malcolm Gladwell’s “Women Problem”

October 28, 2009 By: elana Category: Gender Politics and Society, Jewish women, Judaism and Feminism

I’m a big advocate of society over nature. In countless discussions, I’ve contested the argument that women’s role in Judaism is determined by the “facts” of biology – that is, women give birth ergo, they should not be rabbis (e.g. see Chabad). In one memorable exchange, a man said, “Men are aggressive, we like sports, and that’s just the way it is.” Of course, his wife looked at him and said, “You know, you have two sons. Only one likes football.” Just like that, the son who dislikes football became less of a man, an errant biological artifact. Read the rest on the Forward Sisterhood Read the rest of this entry →

More violence against women by the “Modesty Patrol”

October 28, 2009 By: elana Category: Gender Politics and Society, Israeli society, Jewish women, Uncategorized, Violence against women, Women's body

The latest on "Modesty Patrol" violence against women: Yoel Kraus was arrested on suspicion of attacking a haredi women and spraying her with tear gas becuase she refused to walk on the opposite side of the street. According to Ynet:

The Jerusalem Police on Sunday arrested Yoel Kreus, the "operations officer" of the Eda Haredit, a staunchly anti-Zionist haredi communal organization, for allegedly assaulting a woman in the Meah Shearim neighborhood after she refused to cross the street at his command.... According to initial investigation, Kreus spotted the woman walking on one of the neighborhood's streets and instructed her to cross over to another street. When she refused, he allegedly assaulted her, spraying her with mace.
This is just the latest in the growing fanaticism of haredi anti-women sectors of society. The fanatics are spreading out and getting more violent. Read the rest of this entry →

Nine years of waiting for freedom

October 28, 2009 By: elana Category: Agunot, Gender Politics and Society, Israeli society, Women in Israel

“Rachel” an ultra-Orthodox mother of 12 living in Jerusalem, got divorced this week. It’s cause for celebration for two reasons. First, this grants her much-needed freedom from her severely violent and erratic now-ex-husband, a man who viciously controlled, manipulated and abused her and her children during the marriage and separation. But the real jubilation is because the divorce process – receiving her get – took nine years. Nine years! That’s a marathon that deserves acknowledgment. Unfortunately, Rachel is not alone. Thousands of agunot and mesoravot get (women denied divorce) are stuck in limbo – sometimes for years or even decades – neither married nor divorced, waiting for the rabbinical court to come to their aid. READ THE REST ON THE FORWARD SISTERHOOD BLOG Read the rest of this entry →

“A Hole in the Sheet”: Life of a woman who escaped from Gur Hadism

October 18, 2009 By: elana Category: Uncategorized

Sara Einfeld, 25-year old mother of two, ran away from her Gur Hasidic life. In the process she began a blog, called "Hor Basadin," which attracts many struggling haredi women. Yediyot Aharonot exposed her story in last weekend's newspaper, and has since caused a buzz in haredi and secular circles alike. I blogged about it in this week's Forward Sisterhood. You can read the whole post here. In the meantime, though, here is a heart-wrenching poem that Einfeld posted last week in response to the hubbub (translation mine)

I still cry when I remember

Me A young women who tried t

o explain to a yeshiva scholar

Who sat across from her

Next to the dark wooden table in the living room.

Who made charts and asked, So what’s bothering you?

And wrote down:

That we don’t pass objects from hand to hand

That you don’t call me by name

That we have intercourse according to predetermined times because that ruins everything.

And then I was embarrassed

To tell him that I want

Him to hug me tight, to give me a little kiss on the lips and say,

I love you. And when I tried to tell him, I felt dirty.

And how I cried one day so hard until I banged my head against the wall over and over again

Harder and harder.

And he

Closed the steel door quietly

And in fast steps with his hands folded behind him and his face locked to the ground

He went to the Shteibel

Learned Gemara, or an hour of halakha.

And I wanted to die, I wanted to die, I wanted to die.

Because our sages (or rather, his sages) also said, “O hevruta o mituta,”

Either in a pair, or death

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The Civil Marriage Bill in Israel: A small step for… womankind??

October 14, 2009 By: elana Category: Israeli society, Jewish women, Women in Israel

In today's YnetThe Bill for Civil Marriage in Israel, which went to second and third readings yesterday in the Knesset Law committee, sounds like much more than it is. To be clear, it's not really a bill to introduce civil marriage in Israel in general, but rather to provide a way for people "without religion" to register their unions. No wonder the haredi parties are not opposed -- it doesn't even affect Jews at all! Nevertheless, this may still be an important, if somewhat weak, first step. Read the rest of this entry →

Kolech Presents: Beit Midrash of Identities

October 12, 2009 By: elana Category: Judaism and Feminism, Kolech, Orthodox feminism

Kolech, in cooperation with Pelech, Yedidya, and Ne'emanei Torah Ba'Avoda, are pleased to invite you to "Identity Beit Midrash", a place where young men and women can study, explore and reflect upon existential questions of religious, Israeli identity and belonging. Read the rest of this entry →

Prof Ada Yonath: A Gift to the World, and to Smart Girls

October 09, 2009 By: elana Category: Gender and Education, Jewish education, Women in Israel

When Professor Ada Yonath, the bubbly, animated scientist with Einstein-like hair as well as intelligence, received the phone call several days ago informing her that she was shortlisted for the Nobel Prize in Chemistry, she thought someone was playing a joke on her. “I said, ‘Yeah, right, so should I make an appointment for the hairdresser now?’” she recalled at the press conference this week. “As you can all see, I did not make that appointment,” she laughed, with a wonderful gleam in her eye. Prof. Yonath’s prize for discoveries about ribosomes is cause for celebration, especially for Jewish women. It gives her a place not just in the annals of human history, but also in the hearts and diaries of countless girls. I can just picture all those science-loving girls. They are the ones who, like Prof. Yonath, prefer to be in a lab rather than at the hairdresser, who may be quiet in class or walk with their noses in a book, who are perhaps irreverent and independent-minded, girls who love a good experiment and would rather read science fiction than go to the mall, girls whose idea of a perfect birthday gift is a microscope or telescope rather than a Barbie, girls who wonder why they don’t fit in. READ THE REST AT THE FORWARD SISTERHOOD BLOG Read the rest of this entry →

Woman’s baby grabbed from her arm in Meah Shearim: Her “punishment” for being on the “men’s” side of the street

October 08, 2009 By: elana Category: Israeli society, Jewish women, Religion and gender, Violence against women, Women in Israel

Here's the latest news in the radical extremist, violent culture of sex-segregation in certain areas in Israel: According to today's Yediot Aharonot, a woman had her baby snatched from her arms by a haredi man in Meah Shearim. Apparently, this was done to her because she inadvertently entered the "men's" sidewalk. Yes, sidewalk! Read the rest of this entry →

Sukkot Meditation with Inbal Gal

October 06, 2009 By: elana Category: Spirituality in Education

Inbal Gal is one of the most amazing women I have ever met. She has sage wisdom and spiritual insight way beyond her years. She brings kindness, compassion, and enormous love and care to all her work. I've been doing meditation and guided imagery with her for four years now, and her beautiful spirit has profoundly impacted my life. With the start of the new year, Inbal has just opened a new meditation group on Tuesday nights in Modi'in -- "Ragu'a b'emtza ha'shavua" -- and I highly, highly recommend it. Tonight she is doing a special session for Sukkot. Tuesdays at 8:30 PM at Yizhak Rabin 49, apt 3. Cost: 25 NIS per session. Spread the word! For more information, call Inbal at 054-520-5019 Read the rest of this entry →

Palestinian Feminist Arrested in Gaza for Wearing Jeans

October 05, 2009 By: elana Category: Religion and gender

<The following essay by Palestinian feminist Asma'a Al-Ghoul is being disseminated by Phyllis Chesler. Al-Ghoul was recently arrested on the beach in Gaza for wearing jeans, even though went into the water fully clothed, and the men around her, including a man who was trying to rescue her, were beaten by the police. In the spirit of helping our sisters in struggle, I bring the essay here in its entirety, followed by Chesler's commentary: Gaza: Silence, Collusion and Shame for Female Victims, While Killers Enjoy the Sun and Freedom By Asma'a Al-Ghoul Read the rest of this entry →